| Location | Prenton |
| Age | 70 years |
| Date of Birth | 6/1934 |
| Date of Death | 6/2004 |
| Visitors | 175 since 09/09/2007 |
| Creator |
Ronald Mellor (Ron)
Passed away 30th June, 2004 at the age of 70
Lived on Beechwood Estate, Prenton for many years but was born and bred in Tranmere, Birkenhead.
Left behind his loving wife Lily and their children, Sue, Steve, Paul, Janet and Debbie. Re-united
with his baby Son Mark.
About My Dad.. By Sue
He was always a hard working man, a jack of all trades, yet without any formal training. Everything
he knew was self taught. He was a painter and decorater, tiler, carpet fitter, joiner... you name it
and he could do it. He particularly loved to work with wood and most of our family have a little
piece of treasure, carefully made by his own hands. A full sized babies crib, t.v. stand, welsh
dresser, childrens toys such as cots, garages and dolls houses. One of the last things he made was a
beautiful dolls house, precise in detail and carpeted and decorated throughout. This was a gift for
my own Grandaughter, Georgia who was delighted to find it in her living room one Christmas morning.
Dad loved to have a family get together or 'a do' as he called it and loved to be at a
good knees up, any excuse would do. He had a lovely chuckle when something amused him and loved
talking about old times, when he worked away from home.
Dad had suffered at least 6 heart attacks by the age of 45 but carried on working regardless. His
last attack in 1985 forced him to retire but his love of woodwork kept him busy. By October each
year, he would have orders for the childrens toys from family, friends and neighbours. Late 1998
after feeling ill for some weeks,he was diagnosed as having bowel cancer. He took it in his stride
and accepted all the treatment without question. A private man, he never discussed his illness with
us, he hated fuss and wanted to carry on as normal. After undergoing radium treatment, the growth
had shrunk enough to operate. He had two operations and had a colostomy bag fitted, but made a good
recovery, despite the hospital being concerned about his heart condition, all the treatment was
carried out without any problems. After regular check ups, he was delighted to be discharged and
given the 'all clear'. In July 2002, he walked me down the aisle to be married and looked
the picture of health. The hospital Consultant told me that Dad was a 'remarkable man' and
said he was worried that his heart was not strong enough to hold out through the operations. He
could not believe the speedy recovery after the surgery.We thought the battle against cancer had
been won.Soon after this, he caught a very bad case of Shingles, so bad in fact that he could not
see because the blisters were even over his eyes. He took a long time to recover from this and it
left him with very sore skin and he could not stand bright sunlight.
In 2003, Dad started to suffer with chest pains and was in and out of hospital for some time.
Because of his previous heart problems, there was always the danger of a heart attack, but Dad said
he felt like he had a collapsed lung. At one point, we were warned by the hospital that he was
gravely ill and unlikely to recover, but to our amazement, he perked up enough to be transferred to
a ward and eventually came home again. At the end of May 2004, he was rushed back into hospital with
chest pains, pnuemonia was suspected, but a biopsy was carried out. Dad insisted on coming home for
the day for his 70th Birthday on 6th June and we had a small family afternoon tea and he enjoyed a
piece of his birthday cake. He reluctantly went back to hospital at 4.p.m which was the deal we had
made with the ward Sister. Next day, we were given the devastating news that Dad had lung cancer,
also scans had shown it had spread to his liver and kidneys. As usual, he played it down, saying it
was 'just a sprinkle' of cancer, but could not hide the truth any longer when he was told
that it was too late for Chemo to work. We took Dad home, thinking he had a couple of months left
with us but he deteriorated very quickly,and died peacefully at home at 9.25 p.m. on June
30th,2004.He was surrounded by all his family, which is what he wished for. At the moment he died,
the sun had just set and the sky was the most beautiful colour of orange. I know this was my Dad
saying his last 'Goodnight'. He fought this terrible illness until he had no strength left
but thankfully,he felt no pain towards the end and even managed to open his eyes one last time to
look at Mum.
Our family remain eternally grateful for the care he received at Arrowe Park Hospital, Clatterbridge
Oncology, Macmillan nurses and our own G.P.s.
Hi Dad,
I saw you clear as day , I could almost reach out and touch you. Don't worry about a thing. Mum had her 74th Birthday on Friday, she had a nice afternoon out , followed by a chinese dinner and a cake from Jan . She had plenty of cards to make her day a special one. She is settled in the new bungalow and I live so close I can see her back garden through my window! Love and miss you so much. Give our Mark a hug for me. xxx Sue
how time flies
here we are again cant believe its nearly June, nearly your birthday day, another one without you :-( they say times a great healer but its not really you just kinda get used to someone not being around, strange feeling really.
Kieron is nearing 5 months. Oh you should see him gramps he is just amazing ive never felt so much love in my life. He went in his own room for the first time tonight and has been a little star - i was more worried than him lol.
Sending lots of floaty kisses from us all xxx
Finally he is here
Only 11 days late but he didnt arrive on xmas day thankfully! Our little boy is called Kieron Patrick he arrived 30.12.07 @ 5.06am weighing a whopping 11lb 07oz - not sure how we produced such a whopper!
He is called Kieron, the RON being after you gramps and Patrick is after Barry's gag.
He is truely amazing the best thing that has ever happened to me, he makes me laugh so much he is such a bonny baby he brings tears to my eyes just by looking at him he is so magical i just cant believe he is mine for keeps im so lucky. Wish you got to meet him gramps. I was wondering whether you have been to visit im sure Kieron looks at my angel that watches over us, he is forever looking over my shoulder, im sure its you and his nanny Jones :-) xxx
hi grand, its ian here hope u had good knees up in heaven for christmas an new year as they only come around just once a year. You never got too meet are gorgeous baby sam but you would of been so proud too of seen him in his pram. his birthday was july 29th 2004 an now he has turned three all of the family say he looks the image of me. stacie is expecting are new baby in jan we dont know what were having yet but i bet it looks like sam. watch over us all grand love an miss you loads ian,stacie,sam an baby mciver xxxx
Our New Arrival
Hi Dad, he's here at last!! Baby Kieron Patrick arrived on 30th December 2007 and weighed in at 11lbs 7 ozs. 11 days overdue but better late than never. He is absolutely gorgeous, we wish you could be here at this special time. Love from all of us. xxx
message from Georgia... Hello Grandad, hope you had a good party at Christmas , missing you loads, lots of love.xxx Georgia. If you see my Nanny and Grandad Quinks could you send love from me.
Christmas wishes
To my lovely Dad,
In memory of all the wonderful Christmas times we had , you always loved it and insisted on having 'a do' Hope you like your little tree. The candle was from our Church. Your new baby grandson is overdue, we thought he would be here in time for Christmas day but looks like he is being a bit stubborn. Georgia and Sam got so much stuff, they could open a shop, they were so excited. Georgia was up at 1am and 5am but sam had to be woken up at 7 ! (likes his sleep).
Have a good party up there Dad. Love you loads. xxx Sue and Ian
letter from heaven
To my dearest family – some things I’d like to say,
But first of all to let you know that I’ve arrived ok,
I’m writing this from heaven; here I dwell with God above,
There are no more tears of sadness – just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy because I am out of sight,
Remember that I am with you – morning, noon and night.
The day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up, hugged me and said – “I welcome you.
It’s good to have you back again – you were missed while you were gone,
As for your family – they’ll be here later on.
I need you here badly – you are part of my plan,
There’s so much we have to do to help our mortal man.”
God gave me a list of things that he wanted me to do,
And foremost on the list was to watch and care for you.
When you lie in bed at night, the day’s chores put to flight,
God and I are close to you in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth and all those missing years,
Because you are only human they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry – it does relieve the pain,
Remember there would be no flowers unless there was the rain.
I wish I could tell, all that God had planned,
If I were to tell you – you wouldn’t understand.
But one thing is for certain though my life on earth is o’er,
I’m closer to you now than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead and many hills to climb,
But together we can do it taking it one day at a time.
It was always your philosophy and I would like it too,
That as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.
If you can help somebody who’s in sorrow or in pain,
Then you can say to God at night – my day was not in vain.
So if you meet somebody who’s sad and feeling low,
Just lend a hand to pick them up as on your way you go.
When you’re walking down the street and you’ve got me on your mind,
I’m walking in your footsteps only half a step behind,
And when it’s time for you to go from that body to be free,
Remember you’re not going – but coming home to me!
xxx
In Sympathy
So sorry for your loss. Your story has touched my heart. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. God bless. I hope you find this poem of comfort, as I did when my nan passed in July. x
What is Dying?
A ship sails and I stand watching till she fades on the horizon and someone at my side says 'She is gone'.
Gone where? Gone from my sight, that is all. She is just as large now as when I last saw her. Her diminished size and total loss from my sight is in me, not in her.
And just at the moment when someone at my side says she is gone there are others who are watching her coming over their horizon and other voices take up a glad shout 'There she comes!'
That is what dying is. An horizon and just the limit of our sight.
Lift us up, Oh Lord, that we may see further.
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